23 November, 2025

22 November 2025: Saturday in the park

A woman whom I had befriended on the bus had organized a crack Buckthorn Removal Squad and invited me to join her and the rest of the squad for a late-morning cull out at Token Creek Park.

One afternoon she noticed me reading Thoreau's Walden on our bus rides home and asked me what I thought of it. This was the first of many chats about nature writing that we've had. She introduced me to Sigurd Olson and I Ben Logan to her. Having a B.A. in philosophy, she was able to help me understand Aristotle when I was reading him. We share a joy of spending time in non-man-made environments as well as laying importance upon not despoiling them. Our conversations have been great fun and quite enlightening.

The invitation for some oak prairie restoration came after I had sent her an email lamenting that I would no longer see her on the bus as I had moved and was taking a different route to work. 

My venture in Stoughton having taken a bit longer than expected, I would be late.  I held out hope that it wouldn't be a problem or hold anything up. So, upon returning home, I hastily put on my boots and scrambled to find my gloves which were exactly where I had put them.

Much to my shame I have to admit that I'd never been to Token Creek Park before yesterday. At least I have no recollection of having done so. Better late than never. I found the meeting spot where my bus book buddy and her boyfriend were waiting. Not having seen her in a while, it was wonderful to see her and meet her beau.

We grabbed our equipment - a saw, pruner-snipper thingies, gloves, etc. - and headed down the trail to where we'd be working.

The area was littered with heaps of brush and our task that day was to cut the felled buckthorn into burnable size and stack the pieces into burn piles. My bus buddy gave her boyfriend and me a lecture on how to identify buckthorn and an overview of the restoration process. She'd been at it for a year and a half and had cleared a not insignificant area of invasive species. I was tasked with being the sawyer and so grabbed the saw and got to work on a pile of trees.

Kneeling on the ground, I cut the small trees into three foot lengths and piled up the logs. Despite the din of Highway 51 in the distance, it was lovely outside in the woods, er, prairie. The oaks had donated their leaves to the the ground and every step produced an autumnal crunch. I think the sawing was good for my back as it mimicked the physical therapy exercises I've been doing to get various muscles loosened up and run through their paces. In addition, I enjoyed feeling the cool air on my face and smelling the prairie as it prepared for winter. 

When her boyfriend took over sawyering duties, my buddy and I went around to deal with buckthorn stumps. I trimmed them of new growth while she applied herbicide. We chatted as we worked. I told her of my visit to Walden Pond and she of hers to Yellowstone.

We called it a day at the noon whistle. For my part, I enjoyed myself thoroughly. A little exercise, a little banter, and a couple hours spent in Nature - just perfect.

The crack Buckthorn Removal Squad meets again next month on or near the solstice. It was our hope that there would be snow on the ground as this would be the perfect accompaniment to burning the brush piles.

When I got home Piper knew I had been out of the city as she gave me a thorough sniffing.

I removed my boots and prepared to go shopping with a friend. We went to buy picture frames and groceries. In typical fashion, I forgot to bring my list which had needed comestibles and the dimensions of needed frames. This wasn't too big an impediment as I recalled the size of one of the frames I needed and consulted the internet for the other.

As we drove to the supermarket, my friend and I chatted about Christmas. She noted that, from her experiences in Europe, Christmas there is about lights and food and good company versus the endless sales and materialism that characterize the holiday here in the States. I think this was prompted by my observation at the frame store that they had a Black Friday sale going despite being almost a week out from the dreaded shopping day.

Not being a Christian, I don't celebrate Christmas and I am rather ambivalent about it these days. It used to be fun watching my stepsons open their gifts when they were young but they somehow grew up into men. And my divorce has riven the family my wife and I had into splinters, a process that began back in 2016 or 2017, to be honest. After that, Christmas no longer meant getting together with the kids. Then at some point my wife became uninterested in joining me to visit my family in the Chicago area and Christmas devolved into me visiting my family while she visited friends or family. We would convene at some point so I could give her gifts and that was that.

Sadly, I found the last 3 Christmases at home to be rather depressing. I loved spending time with my family in the Chicago area but giving my wife gifts had become rote and largely devoid of meaning for me. I felt as if I was simply feeding her lust for more things and do not recall just being together for any time beyond the opening of gifts. Sharing a meal, perhaps?


I am not expecting to begin any new traditions this Christmas but do expect to miss the days when it was a joyous time spent with the woman I loved. However, it will be nice to not feel any anxiety over finding the right gifts and right number of gifts for a woman from whom I was becoming ever more disaffected. I shall enjoy my trek to Chicagoland followed by some time spent with Piper on the couch. Not particularly celebratory, perhaps, but less stressful than in years past. Maybe my youngest stepson can find some time to spend with his stepfather. Or maybe I shall take a walk in the woods.

Diversion over. 

Grocery shopping was a similar experience to that at the frame store as I recalled most of what was on the list and then just improvised. Thanksgiving is approaching and I would be going to two people's homes to overindulge and then I am off to Chicagoland the next day so I didn't really need a whole lot. But I enjoyed being in the company of my friend as she pondered the possibility of rye dinner rolls at Thanksgiving and we engaged in supermarket badinage.

I got home, put away my things, and prepared for my next venture: seeing For Heaven's Sake downtown.

For Heaven's Sake was being screened at the Overture Center's Duck Soup Cinema. A comedy from 1926, it stars Harold Lloyd as J. Harold Manners, a wealthy, if bumbling, man about town.

Duck Soup Cinema is more than just the screening of a silent film. We were treated to the strains of a vintage Grand Barton Organ courtesy of Clark Wilson. He played before the show began as well as providing the soundtrack to the film. The organ at the Capitol Theater dates to 1927 and was built by the Bartola Musical Instrument Company up in Oshkosh. It is one of only three of such organs that remain unaltered from their original manufacture.

The show began with the emcee, Joe Thompson, making some dad jokes to his co-hostess, Alanna Medearis who works for the OC. They introduced Duke Otherwise who played some fun and funny tunes on guitar. He brought up a couple people onstage for one song and invited audience participation for another, asking people to shout out animals to be included in the tune he was performing.

Somehow I had missed Wayne the Wizard elsewhere in the building performing magic tricks for patrons. DSC spares no expense for patrons!

For Heaven's Sake was great fun. It's only my second Harold Lloyd film after Safety Last!. Although Manners has the wealth of Croesus and enjoys being a dandy, he is a good man at heart. And so when he accidentally sets a charity cart afire, he pays the owner, Brother Paul, enough for the man of God to start a mission. One day Manners is aghast that Brother Paul has named the mission after him so he goes down there to correct the situation only to become enamored of the churchman's daughter, Hope.

Their decision to marry draws the ire of the city's elite who kidnap Manners. However, he is rescued by some drunken groomsmen who are denizens of the mission. A long stretch of physical comedy follows as Manners' attempts to get the intoxicated groomsmen back to the mission are foiled by their random behavior including abandoning the driver's seat of a double-decker bus in motion.

For Heaven's Sake was great fun and, just as yesterday's visit to Token Creek Park was my first, I do believe this was my first time at Duck Soup Cinema. But not my last!

On my way out I ran into one of the ladies from the Polish Heritage Club who made some of that nalewka that I sampled earlier in the month along with her beau. We chatted briefly and was told that I would be invited out with them on their next trivia outing. We PHC members take care of our own, doncha know.

The ride home was uneventful despite the bus being well-populated on a Saturday night. When I got to my door, I found that the Beer Fairy has stopped by. 

A fine close to a busy but highly rewarding day.

22 November 2025: The lefse is in the lodge and it can't leave

If I had a fireplace I would most certainly have been sitting in its welcoming orange glow last night as I enjoyed my first Winter Skål of the season. Piper, no doubt, would have been with me basking in the warmth of the flames, the flickering light cascading over her. As it was, I simply enjoyed my beer in the glow of a lamp while Piper lay on the couch.

Yesterday was a busy day. It was a social day. And a day that engendered much reflection.

It began with a trip down to Stoughton with a friend to check out the bake and craft sale held by the Sons of Norway lodge there. The morning air held a chill that was a portent of the months to come but I enjoyed its brisk welcome to the day. I didn't recall what street the lodge was on but knew it was just off Main Street and enlisted my friend's assistance. Her navigation seemed off to me as we tacked a course through various side streets but who am I to question the declarations of an iPhone?

"Turn down Fourth Street!" she cried to me as my car darted forward down an unfamiliar street. A look of giddy anticipation began to creep over her face as the promise of rosettes and crafts drew nearer. 

"Hmmm. This doesn't look familiar to me," I offered in my defense. 

Her route or rather her phone's route brought us to the Mandt Community Center where we saw multiple families walking inside clutching hockey gear. A quick consultation of the Google and she realized that our destination was, in fact, the Mandt Lodge.

Our course was soon corrected.


We parked a couple blocks away with my friend surmising - quite correctly - that there would be no parking to be had close to the Lodge. We walked up the street and made a short stop at a memory garden where the sun has risen over the mill pond.

It was a lovely space that must look even lovelier in the warmer months.

The path was lined with bird feeders and statuary. This one reminded me of the clock egg hoolie in the video game The Last Express

"It looks like a giant butt plug," my friend offered with a hearty laugh that made me chuckle. I think this was the first time I'd heard such bawdiness from her.

This statue brought Twin Peaks to mind and prompted me to make the much less ribald comment, "The owls are not what they seem."

When the lodge came into view so did a long line of folks waiting to enter. 

In an attempt to alleviate crowding, people were being let inside in small groups as others left. We spent 20 minutes or so in line much of it with the infant in its mother's arms in front of us intently staring at me. A real cutie.

When we were finally let inside, we found that the place was packed with people scrambling for rømmegrøt, a Norwegian porridge, and all manner of Nordic cookies and sweets. I ended up with a small section of almond cake and some kransekake fingers which are the small, tubular siblings of a different and larger almond cake which apparently consists of rings of nutty goodness stacked one upon another.


On the crafty side, there were alpaca socks of all manner plus hats and scarves made from the wool of the South American(!!) animal. I was hoping to add another bar of pine scented soap to my strategic soap reserve from Suds & Harvest so that my skin would be redolent of evergreen through the winter. Mission accomplished.

I also snagged a tube of lip balm as mine was just about depleted.

We didn't stay too long as the lodge isn't very large and I had a date in the woods later in the morning. However, as we walked back to the car, my friend pleaded, "Can we go down to the bridge?" This was a bridge that went over the mill pond and of course I consented. We passed by a house that had a hound in the yard who was desperate for pets. We happily obliged. 

It was a gorgeous morning and the bridge made for some fine scenery.

My friend dropped me off at home and I scrambled to find my gloves and put my boots on for I had a date at Token Creek Park ridding it of the dreaded buckthorn.

In the sun

The dawn was just gorgeous this morning.

A pensive Piper basking in the sun. 

I am enjoying my apartment's eastern and southern exposures.

22 November, 2025

Soft green underbelly

Piper is enjoying my new flannel bed sheets. I am too. They're soft like Piper's tummy fur.

Scenes, 21 November 2025

I took a walk before settling down before the keyboard yesterday morning. This time my walk would be done in daylight. The west side of the neighborhood tends to get the attention as most of the commercial activity is there - that isn't on E. Washington. But it is the east side of Eken Park that has Starkweather Creek and more greenspace including a dog park and community gardens.

While these look like scenes from the isthmus, they are from left-leaning neighbors here in Eken Park.

I thought this was funny. The style was familiar to me as if it was lifted from a cartoon or videogame but I couldn't place it.

I have walked by this greenspace a few times and have been wondering about it.

The land is apparently owned by the city but the Friends of Starkweather Creek maintain it with picnic tables, a Leopold bench, and a rain garden. 

The Friends are also apparently responsible for the murals on the bridge nearby.

When I got home and took my place before my keyboard ready to work, I found a sleepy Piper perched on her cat tree looking at me. 

20 November, 2025

Civil Shrifting in the Cream City

Francis Bacon wrote:

A principal fruit of friendship is the ease and discharge of the fulness and swellings of the heart, which passions of all kinds do cause and induce. We know diseases of stoppings and suffocations are the most dangerous in the body; and it is not much otherwise in the mind; you may take sarza to open the liver, steel to open the spleen, flower of sulphur for the lungs, castareum for the brain; but no receipt openeth the heart but a true friend, to whom you may impart griefs, joys, fears, hopes, suspicions, counsels, and whatsoever lieth upon the heart to oppress it, in a kind of civil shrift or confession.  

His words came to mind last weekend as I prepared to visit friends in Milwaukee. I wasn't going to have a lot of time there but I was determined to make the most of what I was allotted and that would include not only me imparting griefs, joys, etc. but also my friends doing the same. While I'd hoped to be able to see everyone I knew in the Cream City, a couple had to bow out due to a funeral out of town. Still, two thirds ain't bad.

It was a lovely, sunny Saturday afternoon when I got into Bay View. Traffic hadn't been bad and I made it to the home of a couple friends in good time. I found that they were waiting for me on their porch. One I've known since high school and her husband since they've been married. It had been a while since we'd seen one another so the hugs were generous and most welcome. They were experiencing their own trials and tribulations so we could commiserate.

After presenting them with their gifts - food from Madison, I was presented with a loaf of sourdough bread in embryo. It was rising. Leaving the dough to its own devices, we headed out to Seven Bridges Trail. It was a perfect afternoon for a walk.

While there were still some leaves hanging on until the bitter (cold) end, I suspect we had missed peak color by a couple weeks. That is, I had missed it. My friends had been here to witness Nature in its resplendent glory.

As we walked along, I got caught up on the vexations which plague them and I, in turn, told them of my divorce and my progress in creating a new life for myself. Many griefs, joys, fears, and hopes were exchanged. And then my friend told me that my wife had visited them back in August, a month or so after our divorce began. It did not go particularly well and I felt badly for them; I felt responsible despite not being so, not even knowing of the social call. Oh well. Hopefully there will not be a repeat.

The trail was gorgeous. My friends said that it had been sparsely populated on their last visit but this day it had people everywhere. It lies on the shores of Lake Michigan and had a rather nice beach which I bet is well used during the summer months. 

As we walked along the shoreline, my friend noted that we weren't too far from where the body of Sade Robinson had been found. The 19 year-old had been murdered by a sick fucker named Maxwell Anderson who also dismembered her body.

Despite the horrific tale, it was a relaxing walk and we got caught up on one another's lives. Ever since my divorce began I've been wanting to draw my friends close, to be deeply present and deeply in their presence, and to savor their company like a fine wine. This was a very nice start to the weekend.

The walk also had the effect of giving us all a thirst and so it was off to the newly-reopened St. Francis Brewery.

The brewery closed back in 2019 but had been resurrected this spring - how fitting. I adored their Lust, a Weissbier, back in 2015 and wondered if it was still available. 

I began with a Krug of their Festbier which was very tasty with a toothsome maltiness and just enough hops for balance. While supping and snacking our conversation on the trail continued on barstools. I gave them an idea of the location of my new abode and the details surrounding my hasty exit from the marital residence. In turn, I heard more about their situation and how difficult waiting for resolution was on them.

My second brew was their Hefeweizen, Held Up Hefe. It too was very tasty but had a lighter mouthfeel than Lust. New owners, new recipe, I suspect.

Evening had arrived and we set out to find dinner. We settled on the Vanguard Bar which had vegetarian options aplenty for my friends as well as carnivorous ones for me. On the way there, a couple other friends of mine texted saying that they had returned from the funeral early and were available to get together. Wunderbar! I replied that we were going to eat and that I'd let them know when we were done.

Stepping into the bar we found the place to be packed. We had a 20-minute or so wait for a table. The TV screens had Pink Floyd live from Saint Tropez in 1970 playing but it was Whitney Houston that emanated from the speakers.

I had a bratwurst with onion, sport peppers, and spicy kraut. My friends ordered fries, fried tofu with a ginger-garlic glaze, and a salad of some kind. Everything was delicious but the fried tofu was perhaps the star of the meal with its glazed umami overload.

And the beer was cheap. $6 for a pint of Spotted Cow. Other beers were equally affordable.

With dinner done, I text my friends that we were on our way to the Blackbird Bar which is the tavern of choice of basically everyone I know in Milwaukee. As with the Vanguard, the place was packed. The crowd here was younger, though, and I spied a couple women whose breasts threatened to spill out of their tops. The game was afoot!

We found a few seats at the end of the bar and continued chatting. After a short while, my other friends showed up. We'd not seen one another since May and so their hugs were most welcome. It was simply wonderful to be with all these friends whom I don't get to see often. Even more special than normal. I felt so comfortable and wanted. A couple of them had met before but that was back in 1991 during our college years at a Halloween party that lives on in infamy. They reacquainted themselves with ease.

All too soon our ages showed and we headed out for the comfort of a couch. I was staying at my friends' place and took up position on the love seat while they the couch. We listened to music, supped beers, and chatted away about everything. A wonderful time. They introduced me to the music of Ngozi Family, a Zambian band from the 1970s.


The next morning one of my friends was out the door early to teach her yoga class. For my part, I was to meet up with some other friends to hang out in a sauna before enjoying the cool waters of Lake Michigan at Hot Spell Sauna.

Before then, I hung out with my friends' cats. 

My other friend woke up and we hung out for a short while before I was picked up. I hadn't seen this friend or her husband in a while so I found myself full of joy at being in the company of the remaining folks I know in Milwaukee. My friend has been enjoying the sauna for a while and I couldn't turn down her invitation to join her even if it was only just above the freezing mark outside.

The morning was sunny and clear, if cold, as we pulled into McKinley Marina which the sauna called home. My friend's husband had never been there and I took comfort in not being the only person for whom this was the first time.

A couple portable saunas were set up on the lakeshore next to the boat launch. The idea was that you would spend some time in the heat and then zip down the ramp and into into the lake.

We went into the sauna and I think we all started sweating immediately in the 200+ degree heat. But it felt good. The occasional dose of water on the coals got my nose burning even more as the steam entered my nostrils.

Sitting in the steamy heat, the three of us chatted about life - divorce and kids, for example - for a spell and then it was time to get into the water. We wandered around the fence and made our way down the boat ramp. The second my feet hit the water a shiver went up my legs and I could feel, as George Costanza said, shrinkage. It was freezing!

We waded in deeper. It didn't take long for my legs to go numb. No fancy neoprene accoutrements here; just a swimming trunks and Crocs. I was able to make it in about navel high before retreating. Once out of the water, I felt very good despite the sub 40 degree temps and a moderate wind as I didn't feel the wind's chill; rather it was a revivifying briskness. 

This hot and cold pattern was repeated throughout our 75 minute session. It was absolutely exhilarating!

Afterwards I was invited back to my friend's place for breakfast and more banter. I got to see her kids who had grown quite a bit since I'd last seen them. In addition, I was treated to some highly tasty Anodyne coffee from Sprocket Cafe. And I met their über-friendly hound, Izzy. Look at dem ears! 

All too soon it was time to go and I got dropped off at my other friends' place where I found them relaxing on the couch with the Packers game on the TV. I headed home after the game had finished and we had chatted away even more.

I made it home with a lovely loaf of sourdough in tow.

But also a couple paintings done by my friend that he generously gave to me to decorate the walls of my new place.

What a glorious weekend! I got to see, hug, and chat with every one of my friends in Milwaukee (they are all denizens of Bay View, curiously enough). It was great to be in their company when talking instead of having conversations mediated by a phone. Their hugs were wonderful and just being with them was so invigorating, so needed. In addition to discharging the swellings of the heart, simply being in their presence put me at ease and made my cares seem far away. I am very lucky to have them in my life.

Coming soon, 19 November 2025

Seen before Keeper which I found to be OK. It had some very neat bits but too many horror movie tropes. I appreciated the conceit and how the movie came across as a slasher but was anything but. Plus Tatiana Maslany is easy on the eyes.

As before, a short Nuremburg trailer was shown twice before the trailers started in earnest.

Next we got a red band trailer.

A trailer for Hokum was next but I cannot find a trailer online.

Cardamomomom


On the recommendation of an Indian co-worker, I talked a friend into taking dinner with me at Thalaivas in Middleton. OK, in truth it did not take much convincing to get her to try out this new restaurant - new to both of us.

We arrived just after they opened for dinner and we had the place to ourselves for a short time.

I liked the umbrellas hanging from the ceiling. Aside from the TV blaring Indian music videos, they were the lone decorative element that spoke of the Asian subcontinent. For reasons unknown to me, a sperm whale adorned the bar.

While I may not understand why it was there, I appreciated the presence of the rather incongruous aquatic mammal.

The menus were like hardcover books. Opening mine, I discovered that the pages were all glossy. 

Such fanciness! Any change to the menu means an expensive re-do of the menus.

On offer were some Chinese selections in addition to Indian which seemed mainly to be southern Indian. An odd combination. I was impressed that the kids menu was free of hot dogs and chicken tenders and instead consisted of a trio of dosas.

We started with soups. My companion ordered the Sweet Corn Veg variety


while I went with the Kozhi Milagu Saaru. 

Her soup was light, slightly sweet, and delicious while mine was richer, slightly smoky, and delicious.

For the main course she went with Parotta with Lamb Curry, parotta being a layered flat bread.

I went with Tandoori Chicken. 

Both were tasty, very tasty indeed.

For dessert we had rice kheer.

It's basically just rice pudding but the cardamom adds an extra dimension of lusciousness.

My companion and I agreed that Thalaivas was delicious and will likely be back the next time there are errands to run on the west side.

A.M., 20 November 2025